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RIGHT SPEECH

   There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that

‘A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation.’

Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.‘Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school.’

   A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,

On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, ‘Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker.’

She answered, ‘You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you.’

   Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It’s like a broken egg – cannot be reversed.

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Fighting for superiority

NO OVERPOWERING   Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that

 

‘It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person’s character.’

   It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectations on changing the spouse’s character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

   It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations. .

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Nothing is Perfect

CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?   A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested ‘I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one.’ The SDU officer said, ‘Your requirements, please.’ ‘Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don’t go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need a companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest.’ The officer listened carefully and replied, ‘I understand, you need television.’

 

   There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

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Don’t Blame

NO POINTING FINGERSA man asked his father-in-law, ‘Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?’
   The father-in-law answered in a smile, ‘Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you.’If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

  

   We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

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TRUST

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship.
Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
   A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call.
     She answered, ‘Public Utilities Board.’
There was silence. She repeated, ‘PUB.’
      There was still no answer.
When she was going to cut off the line, she heard a lady’s voice, ‘Oh, so this is PUB.

 

     Sorry, I got the number from my husband’s pocket but I do not know whose number it is.’
  
      Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just
‘hello’ instead of ‘PUB’.

 

 
 

 

 

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