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Never judge a book by its cover

How our inner Ego sometimes misjudges a PERSON
A lady in a faded grey dress and her husband, dressed in a home-spun suit walked in timidly without an appointment into the
Harvard University President’s outer office. The secretary could tell in a moment that such backwoods, country hicks had no business at Harvard and probably didn’t even deserve to be in Harvard.
“We want to see the President “the ma n said softly.
“He’ll be busy all day “the secretary snapped.
“We’ll wait” the lady replied.
For hours the secretary ignored them, hoping that the couple would finally become discouraged and go away. They didn’t and the secretary grew frustrated and finally decided to disturb the president..

“Maybe if you see them for a few minutes, they’ll leave” she said to him. The President, stern faced and with dignity, strutted toward the couple.
The lady told him “We
had a son who attended Harvard for one y ear. He loved Harvard. He was happy here. But about a year ago, he was accidentally killed. My husband and I would like to erect a memorial to him, somewhere on campus.”
The president wasn’t touched….He was shocked. “Madam “he said, gruffly,” We can’t put up a statue for every person who attended Harvard and died. If we did, this place would look like a cemetery.”


“Oh, no,” the lady explained quickly”
We don’t want to erect a statue. We thought we would like to give a building to Harvard.”

The president rolled his eyes. He glanced at the gingham dress and homespun suit, and then exclaimed, “A building! Do you have any earthly idea how much a building costs? We have over seven and a half million dollars in the physical buildings here at Harvard.”


For a moment the lady was silent. The president was pleased. Maybe he could get rid of them now. The lady turned to her husband and said quietly, “Is that all it costs to start a university? Why don’t we just start our own?”


Her husband nodded. The president’s face wilted in confusion and bewilderment. Mr. and Mrs.
Leland Stanford got up and walked away, traveling to Palo Alto, California where they established the University that bears their name: – Stanford University , a memorial to a son that Harvard no longer cared about.

Most of the time
, we judge people by their outer appearance which can be misleading. And in this impression, we tend to treat people badly by thinking they can do nothing for us. Thus we tend to lose our potential good friends, employees o r customers.

Remember


In our Life, we seldom get people with whom we want to share & grow our thought process. But because of our inner EGO we miss them forever.


It is you who have to decide with whom you are getting associated in day to day life.


Small people talk about others,


Average people talk about things,

Great people
talk about ideas.
 
“If you board the wrong train, it is no use running along the corridor in the other direction.”

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Be positive and think differently

A story of A blind boy

A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet.

He held up a sign which said:

 “I am blind, please help.”  

There were only a few coins in the hat.

A man was walking by.

He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat.

He then took the sign,
turned it around, and wrote some words.

He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.

Soon the hat began to fill up.  

A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy.

That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were.
The boy recognized his footsteps and asked,

“Were you the one who changed my  sign this morning?  
What did you write?”

The man said,

 “I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way.”
I wrote:

 “Today is a beautiful day but I cannot see it.”

Both signs told people that the boy was blind.

But the first sign simply said the boy was blind.
The second sign told people that they were so lucky that they were not blind.
Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?

Moral of the Story:

 Be thankful for what you have.  

Be creative. Be innovative.

Think differently and positively.

When life gives you a 100 reasons to cry,

show life that you have 1000 reasons to smile.
Face your past without regret.  

Handle your present with confidence.  

Prepare for the future without fear.  

Keep the faith and drop the fear.

The most beautiful thing is to see a person smiling.
And even more beautiful,

is knowing that you are the reason
behind it!!!

If you appreciate this message, please share.

You may touch
someone’s heart today and forever.
 

Uncle Teng

  

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Empathetic and grateful

 

Empathetic and grateful

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Interview  –

The director discovered from the CV,  that the youth’s academic result is excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never has a year he did not score.

董事長問,你在學校裏拿到獎學金嗎?該青年回答,沒有。

The director asked, “Did you obtain any scholarship in school?” and the youth answered “none”.


董事長問,是你的父親 為您付學費嗎?該青年回答,我父親在我一歲時就去世了,是我的母親給我付的學費。

The director asked, ” Is it your father pay for your school fees?” the youth answered, my father passed away when I was one year old, it is my mother who paid for my school fees.


董事長問,那你的母親是在那家公司高就?該 青年回答,我的母親是給人洗衣服的。
董事長要求該青年把手伸給他,該青年把一雙潔白的手伸給董事長。

The director asked, ” Where did your mother worked?” the youth answered, my mother worked as cloth cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hand, the youth showed a pair of hand that is smooth and perfect to the director.


董事長問,你幫你母 親洗過衣服嗎?該青年回答,從來沒有,我媽總是要我多讀書,再說,母親洗衣服比我快得多。 

The director asked, ” Did you ever help your mother washed the cloth before?” The youth answered, never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books, furthermore, my mother can wash cloths faster than me.

董事長說,我有個要求,你今天回家,給你母 親洗一次雙手,明天上午你再來見我。

The director said, I had a request, when you go back today, go and help to clean your mother’s hand, and then see me tomorrow morning.

該青年覺得自己成功的可能很大,回到家後,高高興興地要給母親洗手,母親受寵若驚地把手伸給孩子。

The youth felt that its chance of landing the job is high, when he went back, he happily wanted to clean his mother’s hand, his mother feel strange, happy but mixed with fear, she showed her hand to the kid.


青年給母親洗著手,漸漸地,眼淚掉下來了,因為他第一次發現,他母親的雙手都是老繭,有個傷口在碰到水時還疼得發抖。

The youth cleaned his mother’s hand slowly, his tear drop down as he did that.  It is first time he found his mother’s hand is so wrinkled, and there are so many bruises in her hand. Some bruises incites pains so strong that shiver her mother’s body when cleaned with water.

青年第一次體會到,母親就是 每天用這雙有傷口的手洗衣服為他付學費,母親的這雙手就是他今天畢業的代價。

This is the first time the youth realized and experienced that it is this pair of hand that washed the cloth everyday to earn him the school fees, the bruises in the mother’s hand is the price that the mother paid for his graduation and academic excellence and probably his future.

該青年給母親洗完手後,一聲不響地把母親剩下要洗的衣服都洗了。

After finishing the cleaning of his mother hand, the youth quietly cleaned all remaining clothes for his mother.

當天晚上,母親和孩子聊了很久很久。

That night, mother and sons talked for a very long time.


第二天早上,該青年去見董事長。

Next morning, the youth went to the director’s office


董事長望著該青年紅腫的眼睛,問到,可以告訴我你昨天回家做了些什麼嗎?

The director noticed the tear in the youth’s eye, asked: ” Can you tell you what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?”

該青年回答說,我給母親洗完手之後, 我幫母親把剩下的衣服都洗了。

The youth answered, ” I cleaned my mother’s hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes’

董事長說,請你告訴我你的感受。

The director asked, ” please tell me your feeling.”


該青年說,第一,我懂得了感恩,沒有我 母親,我不可能有今天。第二,我懂得了要去

和母親一起勞動,才會知道母親的辛苦。第三,我懂得了家庭親情的可貴

The youth said, Number 1, I knew what is appreciation, without my mother, there would not the successful me today. Number 2, I knew how to work together with my mother, then only I can realize how difficult and tough to get something done.  Number 3, I knew the importance and value of family relationship.


董事長說,我就是要錄取一個會 感恩,會體會別人辛苦,不是把金錢當作人生第一目標的人來當經理。你被錄取了。

The director said, ” This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person that can appreciate the help of other, a person that knew the suffering of others to get thing done, and a person that would not put money as his only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired.

這位青年後來果真工作努力,深得職工擁護,員工也都努力工作,整個公司業績大幅成長。

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates, every employees worked diligently and in a team, the company’s result improved tremendously.


假如一位孩子從小嬌生慣養,習 慣了被人圍著寵著,什麼都是第一,父母的辛苦都不知道,上班後,以為同事都應該聽他的,當了經理後,不知道員工的辛苦,還要怨天尤人。這樣的人,會有好的學校成績,會有得意風光的一時,但社會上的這類人,都不能成大事,都不會感覺到幸福,都要跌跟鬥,那父母是愛孩子呢還是害孩子呢?

A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he did, he developed “entitlement mentality” and always put himself first. He is ignorance of his parent’s effort. When he started work, he assumed every people must listen to him, and when he became a manager, he would never know how suffering his employee and always blame others.  For this kind of people, he can have good result, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement, he will grumble and full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parent, did we love the kid or destroy the kid?

你可以讓你的孩子住 大房子,吃大餐,學鋼琴,看大屏電視,但你在割草時,也要讓你的孩子在大太陽下拔拔野草,你在吃飯後,也要讓你的孩子洗洗碗,不是你沒有錢雇人,而是你真心愛孩子。你要讓孩子知道,即使父母掙不少錢,但早早的白髮,和那位洗衣服的母親沒有本質的差別。但更重要的是,要讓你的孩子學會感恩。

You can let your kid lived in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experienced it. After a meal, let them washed their plate and bowl together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way.  You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parent are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learn how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learn the ability to work with others to get thing done.

  

 

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Pick a black or white pebble

Pick a black or white pebble

The moneylender told them that he would put a black pebble and a white pebble into an empty bag. The girl would then have to pick one pebble from the bag. If she picked the black pebble, she would become the moneylender’s wife and her father’s debt would be forgiven. If she picked the white pebble, she need not marry him and her father’s debt would still be forgiven. But if she refused to pick a pebble, her father would be thrown into jail.

They were standing on a pebble-strewn path in the merchant’s garden. As they talked, the moneylender bent over to pick up two pebbles. As he picked them up, the sharp-eyed girl noticed that he had picked up two black pebbles and put them into the bag. He then asked the girl to pick her pebble from the bag.

What would you have done if you were the girl?

If you had to advise her, what would you have told her?

Careful analysis would produce three possibilities:

 

1. The girl should refuse to take a pebble.

2. The girl should show that there were two black pebbles in the bag and expose the moneylender as a cheat.

3. The girl should pick a black pebble and sacrifice herself in order to save her father from his debt and imprisonment.

The above story is used with the hope that it will make us appreciate the difference between lateral and logical thinking.

  

Read on…

The girl put her hand into the moneybag and drew out a pebble. Without looking at it, she fumbled and let it fall onto the pebble-strewn path where it immediately became lost among all the other pebbles.

“Oh, how clumsy of me,” she said. “But never mind, if you look into the bag for the one that is left, you will be able to tell which pebble I picked.”

Since the remaining pebble is black, it must be assumed that she had picked the white one. And since the moneylender dared not admit his dishonesty, the girl changed what seemed an impossible situation into an advantageous one.

MORAL OF THE STORY

 

 

 Most complex problems do have a solution,

sometimes we have to think about them in a different way.

 

 

 

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Listen first to all sides before coming to conclusion

 

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An ant and a grasshopper

An ant worked hard in the sweltering heat all summer,

 building its nest and laying up supplies for the winter.A grasshopper thought the ant was stupid

not knowing how to enjoy life. It spent its days laughing,

singing & dancing thoroughly enjoying the summer.

 

 

  

Came winter, the ant was warm, comfortable

and had no shortage of food.

 

 

  

The grasshopper had no proper shelter,

no stored food, and couldn’t find anything

to eat from the snow-covered ground.

So it died and the story ended.  

MORAL OF THE STORY:

Be responsible for yourself!

 

  

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