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Top 10 myths of Marriages

Top 10 myths of Marriages

 

With nearly half of all marriages ending in divorce, many couples are starting to re-evaluate their relationships.But before you start any heady analysis, it’s important to know the facts from the myths when it comes to marriage.#1 Myth: Because of the high divorce rate, which weeds out the unhappy marriages, people who stay married have happier marriages than people did in the past when everyone stuck it out, no matter how bad the marriage.

Fact: According to what people have reported in several large national surveys, the general level of happiness in marriages has not increased and probably has declined slightly. Some studies have found in recent marriages, compared to those of 20 or 30 years ago, significantly more work-related stress, more marital conflict and less marital interaction.

#2 Myth: Cohabitation is just like marriage, but without “the piece of paper.”

Fact: Cohabitation typically does not bring the benefits — in physical health, wealth and emotional wellbeing — that marriage does. In terms of these benefits, cohabitants in the United States more closely resemble singles than married couples. This is due, in part, to the fact that cohabitants tend not to be as committed as married couples, and they are more oriented toward their own personal autonomy and less to the wellbeing of their partner.

#3 Myth: Married people have less satisfying sex lives, and less sex, than single people.

Fact: According to a large-scale national study, married people have both more and better sex than do their unmarried counterparts. Not only do they have sex more often, but they also enjoy it more, both physically and emotionally.

#4 Myth: Marrying puts a woman at greater risk of domestic violence than her single counterpart.

Fact: Contrary to the proposition that for men “a marriage license is a hitting license,” a large body of research shows that being unmarried — and especially living with a man outside of marriage — is associated with a considerably higher risk of domestic violence for women. One reason for this finding is that married women may significantly underreport domestic violence. Further, women are less likely to marry and more likely to divorce a man who is violent. Yet it is probably also the case that married men are less likely to commit domestic violence because they are more invested in their wives’ wellbeing, and more integrated into the extended family and community. These social forces seem to help check men’s violent behavior.

#5 Myth: People can’t be expected to stay in a marriage for a lifetime as they did in the past because we live so much longer today.

Fact: Unless our comparison goes back a hundred years, there is no basis for this belief. The enormous increase in longevity is due mainly to a steep reduction in infant mortality. And while adults today can expect to live a little longer than their grandparents, they also marry at a later age. The life span of a typical, divorce-free marriage, therefore, has not changed much in the past 50 years. Also, many couples call it quits long before they get to a significant anniversary: Half of all divorces take place by the seventh year of a marriage.

#6 Myth: Couples who live together before marriage, and are thus able to test how well suited they are for each other, have more satisfying and longer-lasting marriages than couples who do not.

Fact: Many studies have found that those who live together before marriage have less satisfying marriages and a considerably higher chance of eventually breaking up. One reason is that people who cohabit may be more skittish of commitment and more likely to call it quits when problems arise. But in addition, the very act of living together may lead to attitudes that make happy marriages more difficult. The findings of one recent study, for example, suggest “there may be less motivation for cohabiting partners to develop their conflict resolution and support skills.” (One important exception: Cohabiting couples who are already planning to marry each other in the near future have just as good a chance at staying together as couples who don’t live together before marriage).

#7 Myth: The more educated a woman becomes, the lower are her chances of getting married.

Fact: A recent study based on marriage rates in the mid-1990s concluded that today’s women college graduates are more likely to marry than their non-college peers, despite their older age at first marriage. This is a change from the past, when women with more education were less likely to marry.

#8 Myth: The keys to long-term marital success are good luck and romantic love.

Fact: Rather than luck and love, the most common reasons couples give for their long-term marital success are commitment and companionship. They define their marriage as a creation that has taken hard work, dedication and commitment (to each other and to the institution of marriage). The happiest couples are friends who share lives and are compatible in interests and values.

#9 Myth: Having children typically brings a married couple closer together and increases marital happiness.

Fact: Many studies have shown that the arrival of the first baby commonly has the effect of pushing the mother and father farther apart, and bringing stress to the marriage. However, couples with children have a slightly lower rate of divorce than childless couples.

#10 Myth: Marriage benefits men much more than women.

Fact: Contrary to earlier and widely publicized reports, recent research finds men and women to benefit about equally from marriage, although in different ways. Both men and women live longer, happier, healthier and wealthier lives when they are married. Husbands typically gain greater health benefits, while wives gain greater financial advantages.

 

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Enjoy Life

1 . If time doesn’t wait for you, don’t worry!

Just remove the damn battery from the clock and

Enjoy life!

  

2 . Expecting the world to treat u fairly coz u r a good person

is like expecting the lion not to attack u coz u r a vegetarian.

Think about it.

3 . Beauty isn’t measured by outer appearance and what clothes we wear,

but what we are inside.

So, try going out naked tomorrow and see the Admiration!

4 . Don’t walk as if you rule the world,

walk as if you don’t care who rules the world!

That’s called Attitude.

Keep on rocking!

 

 

5 . Every lady hopes that her daughter will marry a better man  

than she did and is convinced that her  

son will never find a wife as good as his father did!!!
 

6 . He was a good man.  

 He never smoked, drank had no affair.  

When he died, the insurance company refused the claim.  

They said, he who never lived, cannot die!

7 . A man threw his wife in a pond of Crocodiles.  

He’s now being harassed by the Animal Rights Activists  

for being cruel to the Crocodiles!

8 . So many options for suicide:
Poison, sleeping pills, hanging, jumping from a building, lying on train tracks,  

but we chose Marriage,  

slow but sure!

9 . Only 20 percent boys have brains,  

rest has girlfriends!

10 . All desirable things in life are either illegal banned,  

expensive or married to someone else!

11 . 10% of road accidents are due to drunken driving.
This makes it a logical statement that  

90% of accidents are due to driving without drinking!  

 

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MOTTO OF A WOMAN

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Dumbest kid

Dumbest kid

A young boy enters a barber shop and the barber whispers to his Customer,

“This is the dumbest kid in the world. Watch while I prove it to you.”
 
The barber puts a dollar in one hand and two quarters in the other,

then calls the boy over and asks,

“Which do you want, son?”

The boy takes the quarters and leaves.
 
“What did I tell you?” said the barber. “That kid never learns!”

 

 
Later, when the customer leaves,

 he sees the same young boy coming out of the ice cream store.

“Hey, son! May I ask you a question?

Why did you take the quarters instead of the dollar?”

 
The boy licked his cone and replied,

?????????????

Now you guess the answer

before you

“Because the day I take the dollar,

the game’s over!”

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Find a pair of shoes

 

s  c   a  r  y

Find a pair of shoes in front this house

within 2 minute.

Do let me know how

long you have taken to find them.

Have a Nice Day

  

Did I frighten You?

  

Uncle Teng

 

 

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About life

About life

A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience,
 Raised a glass of water and asked;
 ‘How heavy is this glass of water?’   
 Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g.

 The lecturer replied, ‘The absolute weight doesn’t matter.
 It depends on how long you try to hold it.
 If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem.
 If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm.
 If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance.
In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.

 He continued,
 and that’s the way it is with stress management.
 If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later,
 As the burden becomes increasingly heavy,
We won’t be able to carry on.
 
As with the glass of water,
You  have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it  again.
 When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden.

So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work or whatever is bothering you down. Don’t carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow.
Whatever burdens you’re carrying now,
 Let them down for a moment if you can. ‘So, my friend put down anything that may be a burden to you right now. Don’t pick it up again until after you’ve rested a while.

 Here are some great ways of dealing with the burdens of life: 

 * Accept that some days you’re the pigeon, and some days you’re the statue.  **

 

 * Always keep your words soft and sweet, Just in case you have to eat them.  **

* Drive carefully. It’s not only cars that can be “Recalled” by their maker.  **

* If you can’t be kind, at least has the decency to be vague.  **

 

 * If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.  **

 * It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to be kind to others. **

 * Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won’t have a leg to stand on. **

 * Nobody cares if you can’t dance well. Just get up and dance.  **
 
 * When everything’s coming your way, you’re in the wrong lane.  **

 * Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.  **

 * You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person.  **

* Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.  **

* We could learn a lot from crayons… Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names, and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.  ** *

 

*A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.  **

* Have an awesome day and know that someone has thought about you today …*

 

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