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How to End a Short Term Relationship

How to End a Short Term Relationship

 

Have you just started a new relationship and you are already questioning it?

Here are the few steps you need to follow if you already want to get out of this new relationship

1. Sometimes you start a relationship and you start wondering how you ever got here in the first place. Obviously if you have started dating someone, there must have been reasons for you to get involved: a certain physical attraction, nice moments you spent with this person, and then a kiss, which defines the moment you started a relationship.

2. But here you are, a few days or even weeks into this new relationship and you don’t feel comfortable in it. You’ve already reached the point where you’re trying to figure out how to get out of it while not hurting your new partner too much.

3. First thing first: try to make sure you do not want to pursue the relationship. No point in telling your partner you don’t feel like going on if you’re going to come back begging a few days later. So give yourself a little bit of time to be sure of your feeling.

4. Have you had an argument and are you mad at him/her? Sometimes people can surprise you and you discover things about them you wouldn’t have imagined in the first place. Are those differences incompatible with the way you picture a happy relationship? If they are, then yes, there is no reason in getting more involved. If these bad feelings have a specific reason, maybe it would be good to talk about it to your partner.

5. But more importantly just trust your feeling because this is the easiest clue to your new relationship’s future. If you haven’t been together long and you’re already bored, less attracted, even annoyed, or if you’ve realized this is more about friendship than possible love, don’t lure yourself into thinking “you can make it work”. You won’t overcome your first feelings. Trust yourself.

6. How to end a short-term relationship?

Well the same way you would end any relationship. Be honest and straight-forward. Don’t give false excuses but just tell the truth. It may not be easy because you may fear that your partner won’t understand your reasons (after all you don’t know him that well); but all this is not about rational reasons. It is only about the way you feel. And if you feel there is no chance in this relationship don’t apologize for it. You can’t make your feelings go away just by listening to apparently sound reasons. We have all at some point, left someone who tried to talk us out of it by pointing out the efforts he/she was going to make to adapt to what we wanted. But if someone has to change in the first place so that a relationship could work out, it is definitely a huge sign that you are not meant for each-other. So stand your ground. It’s the best you can do for this person, even if he/she can’t see it right now. And it’s certainly the best you can do for yourself.

7. The last step:

Of course as with any relationship, even if you haven’t been together a long time, don’t think you can go back to a normal friendship straight away. It is probably the biggest lie we like to tell ourselves to appease the pain that breaking up implies. But give yourselves some time apart to learn how to be together again in a non-sentimental way. If the relationship was short it won’t take as long as it might have with a longer one.

Tips
One thing ending a short-term relationship can bring you is to analyze the reasons why you chose to start a relationship with this particular person in the first place. Analyze the circumstances and why you obviously made a mistake because this will give you some indications about what not to do in the future.

 

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COMPLETE or FINISH LOVE

People say there is no difference between COMPLETE & FINISH.
But there is a difference.

 

When you love the right one you are COMPLETE.
&
When you love the wrong one you are FINISHED!

 

 

 

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Secret behind a happy married life

The Secret behind a happy married life

Once X asked Y, “What is the secret behind your happy married life?”

Y said, “You should share responsibilities with your love and respect to each other. Then absolutely there will be no problems.”

X asked, “Can you explain?”

Y said, “In my house, I take decisions on bigger issues where as my wife decides on smaller issues. We do not interfere in each other’s decisions.”

Still not convinced, X asked Y “Give me some examples”

Y said, “Smaller issues like which car we should buy, how much amount to save, when to visit home town, which Sofa, air conditioner, refrigerator to buy, monthly expenses, whether to keep a maid or not etc are decided by my wife. I just agree to it”

X asked, “Then what is your role?”

Y said, “My decisions are only for very big issues. Like whether America should attack Iraq, whether Britain should lift sanction over Zimbabwe, whether to widen African economy, whether Sachin Tendulkar should retire etc. Do you know one thing, my wife NEVER objects to any of these”.

 

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Whatever you give

 

Whatever You Give

 

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Beautiful Quotes 2

 

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Hotel Key Cards

 

HOTEL KEY CARDS 

Ever wonder what is on your magnetic key card? 

Answer

a. Customer’s name 
b. Customer’s partial home address 
c. Hotel room number 
d. Check-in date and out dates 
e. Customer’s credit card number and expiration date! 

When you turn them in to the front desk your personal information is there for any employee to access by simply scanning the card in the hotel scanner. An employee can take a hand full of cards home and using a scanning device, access the information onto a laptop computer and go shopping at your expense. 

Simply put, hotels do not erase the information on these cards until an employee reissues thecard to the next hotel guest. At that time, the new guest’s information is electronically ‘overwritten’ on the card and the previous guest’s information is erased in the overwriting process. 

But until the card is rewritten for the next guest, it usually is kept in a drawer at the front desk with YOUR INFORMATION ON IT! 

The bottom line is: Keep the cards, take them home with you, or destroy them. NEVER leave them behind in the room or room wastebasket, and NEVER turn them into the front desk when you check out of a room. They will not charge you for the card (it’s illegal) and you’ll be sure you are not leaving a lot of valuable personal information on it that could be easily lifted off with any simple scanning device card reader. 

For the same reason, if you arrive at the airport and discover you still have the card key in your pocket, do not toss it in an airport trash basket. Take it home and destroy it by cutting it up, especially through the electronic information strip! 

If you have a small magnet, pass it across the magnetic strip several times. Then try it in the door, it will not work. It erases everything on the card. 

Information courtesy of:  Metropolitan Police Service.

PLEASE FORWARD to friends and family

 

 

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3 things in life

Three things in life that,

once gone,

never come back –

TimeWordsOpportunity

Three things in life that may never be lost –

Love    Self-confidence  Friends

 

Three things in life that is never certain –

Dreams  Success   Fortune   

 

Three things that make a man/woman –

Hard work  Sincerity  Commitment

Three things in life that can destroy a man/woman –

Alcohol   Pride   Anger 

Tengkp

 

 

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