Archive for January, 2009

Loneliness & Depression

As the old saying goes,
hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.

With depression being the number one illness across the whole world,
there are a huge number of people out
there who need to get the right help for them.

If you’ve suffered from depression you’ll know how
it seeps into every aspect of your life.

The signs and symptoms include:

• First and foremost a pervading feeling that you’re “blue”,
down, feel despair, are sad, not yourself, low in spirits – essentially depressed.

• Irritable and short-tempered for apparently no reason.

• Have a lack enthusiasm for the things you once enjoyed.

• Find it very hard to sleep or are sleeping too much.

• Can’t get motivated for things like work and day-to-day chores.

• Everything feels like it’s an effort and
some people describe that they are “walking through sludge”.

• Loss of interest in sex.

• Loss of appetite or wanting to eat more.

• Feeling hopeless and also helpless.

• You might also stop looking after yourself properly.

• Unexpected feelings of anger.

• You may feel guilty and/or ashamed that
you have no “obvious reason” to feel depressed.

• Easily stressed out – you may find things
that used to be easy now seem difficult.

• You might have suicidal thoughts.

• You might find yourself turning to alcohol
and drugs to “make you feel better”
but this is not the solution.

• And you may notice your own unique symptoms.

If you’ve felt any of these symptoms for longer
than two weeks then that should be a wake-up call to try
and determine whether or not you have depression.
Now that this report has made it quite clear that
people need to look at what care is available to them
besides anti-depressants, rest assured there is lots you can do.

What You Should Do Now

•  Let your nearest and dearest know that
you have concerns about your well-being.
Don’t keep these blue feelings secret.
Keeping them to yourself can worsen them.

•  Go to your doctor and book a double appointment so
that you have plenty of time to go through your symptoms.

•  It’s terribly important while you’re getting help to
decrease any demands on your time that you can.
The fewer demands that you have in your life,
the quicker you can recover.
This is about setting limits and learning to assert yourself
because many people who get depression struggle with
setting boundaries and saying No to other people’s demands for their time.

•  Make sure you eat well and don’t rely on pre-packaged ready meals
that may have too much salt,
sugar and other additives that are not good for your mood.

•  Try to establish a good sleep routine.

•  Allow yourself one small nap or
rest during the day but avoid staying in bed.

•  Take gentle exercise every day to boost your endorphins –
those feel-good brain chemicals.

•  Try keeping a journal so that
you can keep tabs on how your mood goes up and down.

•  Get to know what things actually set you off as people
are more likely to suffer more depressive episodes
if they do not sort out the root cause.

•  Begin to learn to talk about your feelings to other people so
that you feel you have better communication and
stronger relationships – definitely a protective factor
that helps protect you from future depression.

•  Question whether you’re a bit of a perfectionist
and need to accept yourself more. Realise the fact
that no one is perfect. The seemingly “strongest” and
most compassionate people I’ve ever met have often been
depressives! But they must learn to say No to helping others
when they need to be gentler and help themselves.

•  If you and your doctor think it’s appropriate then get counselling.
There are different types of counselling but
cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) has been successful for
many people with depression. It teaches them how to rethink
about their world and challenge any negative beliefs
that feed their depression. If you end up going for a “talking cure”
with some form of counselling you’ll find one interesting point
many counsellors talk about is
“surrendering to your depression and acknowledging it”.
In a sense they urge you to “embrace it” so that
you can then actually face it head-on.
The basis for this is that if you don’t wholeheartedly face it
and embrace it than you may stay in denial about what’s causing it.

Where Does Depression Come From?

Although every person’s set of symptoms and
experience of depression is unique there are a few major causes,
these are:

Reactive depression – where you’re “reacting” to
some sort of life events like divorce or bereavement.

Chronic depression – a long-term depression
that may have resulted from something like a difficult
or traumatic childhood or event, or work from
a disturbance in your brain chemistry.

Advertisements

Leave a Comment

Detect Depression early.

As the old saying goes,
 hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.

With depression being the number one illness across the whole world, there are a huge number of people out there who need to get the right help for them.


If you’ve suffered from depression you’ll know how it seeps into every aspect of your life. The signs and symptoms include:


• First and foremost a pervading feeling that you’re “blue”, down, feel despair, are sad, not yourself, low in spirits – essentially depressed.


• Irritable and short-tempered for apparently no reason.


• Have a lack enthusiasm for the things you once enjoyed.


• Find it very hard to sleep or are sleeping too much.


• Can’t get motivated for things like work and day-to-day chores.


• Everything feels like it’s an effort and some people describe that they are “walking through sludge”.

 

A couple suffering from depression (image©Rex Features)

• Loss of interest in sex.


• Loss of appetite or wanting to eat more.


• Feeling hopeless and also helpless.


• You might also stop looking after yourself properly.


• Unexpected feelings of anger.


• You may feel guilty and/or ashamed that you have no “obvious reason” to feel depressed.


• Easily stressed out – you may find things that used to be easy now seem difficult.


• You might have suicidal thoughts.


• You might find yourself turning to alcohol and drugs to “make you feel better” but this is not the solution.


• And you may notice your own unique symptoms.


If you’ve felt any of these symptoms for longer than two weeks then that should be a wake-up call to try and determine whether or not you have depression. Now that this report has made it quite clear that people need to look at what care is available to them besides anti-depressants, rest assured there is lots you can do.


What You Should Do Now


•  Let your nearest and dearest know that you have concerns about your well-being. Don’t keep these blue feelings secret. Keeping them to yourself can worsen them.


•  Go to your doctor and book a double appointment so that you have plenty of time to go through your symptoms.


•  It’s terribly important while you’re getting help to decrease any demands on your time that you can. The fewer demands that you have in your life, the quicker you can recover. This is about setting limits and learning to assert yourself because many people who get depression struggle with setting boundaries and saying No to other people’s demands for their time.


•  Make sure you eat well and don’t rely on pre-packaged ready meals that may have too much salt, sugar and other additives that are not good for your mood.


•  Try to establish a good sleep routine.


•  Allow yourself one small nap or rest during the day but avoid staying in bed.


•  Take gentle exercise every day to boost your endorphins – those feel-good brain chemicals.


•  Try keeping a journal so that you can keep tabs on how your mood goes up and down.


•  Get to know what things actually set you off as people are more likely to suffer more depressive episodes if they do not sort out the root cause.


•  Begin to learn to talk about your feelings to other people so that you feel you have better communication and stronger relationships – definitely a protective factor that helps protect you from future depression.


•  Question whether you’re a bit of a perfectionist and need to accept yourself more. Realise the fact that no one is perfect. The seemingly “strongest” and most compassionate people I’ve ever met have often been depressives! But they must learn to say No to helping others when they need to be gentler and help themselves.


•  If you and your doctor think it’s appropriate then get counselling. There are different types of counselling but cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) has been successful for many people with depression. It teaches them how to rethink about their world and challenge any negative beliefs that feed their depression. If you end up going for a “talking cure” with some form of counselling you’ll find one interesting point many counsellors talk about is “surrendering to your depression and acknowledging it”. In a sense they urge you to “embrace it” so that you can then actually face it head-on. The basis for this is that if you don’t wholeheartedly face it and embrace it than you may stay in denial about what’s causing it.


Where Does Depression Come From?


Although every person’s set of symptoms and experience of depression is unique there are a few major causes, these are:


Reactive depression – where you’re “reacting” to some sort of life events like divorce or bereavement.


Chronic depression – a long-term depression that may have resulted from something like a difficult or traumatic childhood or event, or work from a disturbance in your brain chemistry.

Leave a Comment

Benefits of Garlic

 

garlic2

Benefits of Garlic

 

Garlic (Allium sativum) is not only a culinary mainstay,

but also an antiviral, antibacterial and antifungal tonic.

 

To help prevent or lessen the severity

 and symptoms of a cold,

eat two cloves of raw garlic at the onset of symptoms.


Chopping or mashing garlic releases the herb’s full potential

as the active component, allicin,

forms only on contact with air.

To make garlic oil, crush a few cloves into some olive oil.

 

Let the oil sit for a few days at room temperature,

and then strain.


If you use powders,

tinctures or other commercial garlic products,

choose those standardized for allicin content.

 

For a less-intense flavor,

put garlic in applesauce or mix with honey.

 

To avoid garlic mouth,

don’t chew it and it won’t stay on your breath.

 

 

 

Leave a Comment

How to be a good parent

Good Tips for raising Children

RAISING children is a taunting task. It starts out really hard for parents who want to do a good job of caring for their children.
You think that all the hard work will pay off as the child gets older,
but things do not always stay the same.

Parents have to be consistent when dealing with children,
yet they have to keep up with the changes as their children grow and develop.

One father said this during a parenting seminar:
“I used to have many parenting theories before I became a parent.
Now that I am a father of three, I have no theories left.”
Parenting is all about learning and experiencing.
It requires work, time and loads of patience.

Language is the key to good communication between parents and children.
It is not a Western thing to talk to our children.
Using respectful language with children transcends all cultures.
Children learn from the way we communicate with them.

Shouting or yelling at your children will make matters worse.
They will open up to you when they feel secure, loved and respected.
Threats will only confuse them and make them fearful to share their thoughts.

Most parents want their children to listen to what they say.
They focus so much on seeking cooperation from their children that
they overlook the importance of developing the child’s character.
It is better for children to cooperate because it is the right thing to do, not because their parents told them so.

Parents forget that their children tend to mimic them in their behaviour
rather than internalise their words. You want your child to tell the truth at all times,
yet there are occasions when he hears you telling a white lie over the phone.

Children do make lots of mistakes; so do their parents.
They often hear their parents say:
“It is a harsh and difficult world out there.
I will teach you now so that you will not make the same mistakes.”

Many teenagers often feel misunderstood by their parents.
To them, the real world is the present, not the one in the future.
They need their parents to support them as they go through
the challenges of teenage years.
Help your children feel empowered and relate to their struggles.
Let them know you are there for them in their journey through life.

Children learn best when they have enough time to explore and develop one skill at a time.
Rushing children from one programme to another,
can lead to early burnout.
Children require guidance,
discipline and nurturing from their parents, not from others.
You cannot pay someone else to do what you can do for your child.
A parent’s love outweighs the best programmes in the world.

Make time for your children.
Enjoy being with them,
doing very little or a lot.
All that matters is that you are
there for your child and he is there for you.

Parents who try to influence their children’s ambition,
may be in for disappointment.
They do everything for their children
but their children blame them for many things
that happen in their lives.

Children who have the freedom to choose,
show more passion for their work.
Start right by helping them to do things for themselves.
Help them to make the right choice,
instead of making choices for them.
We have to change gears as children develop and grow.
What used to work with your child may no longer
be effective as he grows older.

Every child reacts differently to rules and consequences.
Children want to be treated as individuals,
not carbon copies of their siblings,
so avoid comparing them with others.

Leave a Comment

Health is Wealth

Healthy diet
Develop good, healthy eating habits. The first condition to a healthy diet is to eat a wide variety of foods so that you can gather all the different nutritional requirements.
In a nutshell, we should eat more fruits, vegetables, yoghurt and yoghurt drinks, starchy and fresh produce and less sugary, salty, fatty and processed foods.
Eat more fiber
The best source of fiber and the easiest way to consume it is to eat more fruits, vegetables, beans and whole grains.
Nowadays, most breakfast cereals, and those for children too, are packed with fiber, vitamins and nutrients.
Start your day with a healthy serving of breakfast cereals that will take you through to the next meal.
Healthy weight
Keeping your weight at the desired level is tough but everybody knows the benefits of maintaining a healthy weight. It lowers the risk of coronary diseases like heart attack and stroke, diabetes and hypertension, to name a few.
Be aware of what you consume with a strong emphasis on low fat and low cholesterol foods. Be more active, choose smaller portions during meal times and eat slowly.
Move more, eat less
Be more active. Choose activities you enjoy and do them every day. If need be, do them with a friend and both of you can keep each other on track. Reduce your intake of sweet drinks and junk food.
Turn off the TV
Watching less TV can give you more time to exercise and be active.
Also, you will not be enticed by junk food commercials. Two ways of reducing TV watching is by: a) taking it out of your bedroom; and b) switching off the TV during meal times.
Drink plenty of water
Water helps to soften waste material in the gut and prevents constipation which, if left unchecked, could lead to digestive stress.
Vitamins and minerals
Try to get all your vitamins and minerals from foods you consume and not from supplements. Also, food provides the “synergy” that many nutrients require so that they can be efficiently broken down and absorbed in the body.
Once equilibrium is restored, you will enjoy a sense of well-being.
After all, a healthy body brings with it glowing skin, luscious hair and strong nails.

Comments off